Career Advice By Randy

Reader Question – Does he have to invite everyone at the office?

Here a good question I found in the comments section of a previous post. ‘Newlywed!’ asks us the question:

Ok, there are 3 people who work with him at the office (2 ladies and a nice man), plus the boss and his wife (which makes 5 ppl).. 1 of the people is an old woman whom he shares the office with, he always says he doesn’t like her at all.. But still feels obligated to invite her to our wedding..I keep telling him he doesn’t have to invite people that he doesn’t like, is our wedding and of course i only want people who are important to us…But he says is “office politics”.. Does he have to invite her? What should i do if i don’t want to pay an extra $70 for someone who isn’t even important?? plus we’d probably have to let her come with someone, which would make it about $140..Is he right? Does he even have to invite the ppl at the office or just the bosses and the other man he really likes??How can i make him understand??39 minutes ago – 4 days left to answer. Additional DetailsI know, but he just doesn’t understand it.. I’ve tried telling him that we don’t have to in many ways, but he says he feels obligated.. again “office politics”.. how can he do it when he gives out invitations?? just skip her??

Answer: Politics (whether office or family) play a significant role in whom you invite to the wedding. If he works in a small office, and he invites everyone BUT one person, it will create resentment. He has to work with these people for years to come – I think, $70 in exchange for a more pleasant work environment long-term is actually a pretty good investment.

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